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Therapist appeals to cheaters with how their adultery will continue to affect them for rest of their lives
A therapist has outlined non-typical reasons not to cheat, with many of them directly affecting you for the rest of your life.
If relationships weren’t complicated enough you have to worry about the possibility of your partner cheating. The devastating act obviously works on different levels, from the micro-cheating acts you might overlook, the outright affair you’ve been hiding for months, to the truly wild stories like the woman who cheated with AI.
Cheating on your partner is a full-time job
If affecting your partner’s chronic health was not enough to stop you from straying, then you might listen to the wise words of Therapy Jeff (@therapyjeff).
Jeff, who earlier jumped into the topic of judgment with relationships, took to TikTok on Tuesday with helpful advice specifically for the cheaters in the room. You know who you are.
“You’ve got to mentally split yourself in two, which is tough and honestly pretty upsetting,” he said.
The relationship therapist explained that cheating splits you in two as you lead two separate lives. This ultimately leads you to feeling exhausted and a “disconnect between who you really are and who you are pretending to be.”
Jeff’s next point was the sheer amount of time it takes to become a cheater. Of course, some people stray just once, but it’s rarely an isolated incident. With a career, your actual relationship, and kids, who has time?
Moving on, Jeff said: “Three. It will haunt you for the rest of your life. Even if you manage to forgive yourself, there will always be a part of you that feels guilt and remorse forever, which is normal, and a total bummer.”
There’s a reason why there are existing phrases like “once a cheater, always a cheater” and “a leopard never changes its spots”, and that’s because it will follow you to the end of time.
Circling back around to the effect cheating has on your partner, Jeff said that they deserve to know the real you. You’ve both entered into the relationship in a verbal agreement, which you are breaking.
Followers said that some cheaters are simply evil
Though Jeff’s points could help some people move away from the idea of cheating, his followers pointed out that some people simply don’t have that remorse.
One person said: “I don’t think they all have remorse, especially the ones that constantly cheat. My ex cheated on me over 30 times with different people, both men and women, sometimes unprotected.”
“This advice, however tongue-in-cheek meant, will not reach fragile men who need constant validation of their egos by admiring women. They will do literally anything to get their fix,” another said.
A third revealed: “I was a cheater. Dont ever do it. It is exhausting and you will hate yourself. Took a lot of years of counseling to forgive myself and the hurt I caused others. Brutal.”
