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The fastest way to meet the one is by focusing on yourself, dating coach says
Dating isn’t the same as it was a decade or two ago. But for most, the sole purpose of dating remains the same – to end up with “the one.”
There are plenty of videos, blogs, and books to guide you through the dating process to meet the love of your life. But, a dating coach outlines the key factor to finding the right partren that most romantics ignore in the chase for their dream love.
Dating coach shares the ‘fastest way to meet the one’
No one likes to be led on or waste their time on daters who can’t commit. If you’re looking for a life partner, it’s time you look within.
Dating and relationship coach Nelly Sudri believes, most forget about self-love and self-care in the chase to meet “the one”. However, you can attract a potential relationship by becoming the person others desire to be with.
She says you must work on being the best version of yourself and never compromise with your values to be noticed by a romantic interest.
The dating coach advises you to “stop focusing on the fact that you haven’t met them yet and fixating on when they’re going to come into your life” and direct all the energy towards yourself instead.
The wait keeps you in the “state of lack” and ironically repels potential partners, Nelly says. You should instead focus on your social circle, friends, family, and everything you’re grateful for.
What actually makes you more desirable
British dating coach Matthew Hussey echoes Nelly’s thoughts in his video discussing one thing that makes you more desirable to someone you are interested in.
As much as you want to offer your best self to a dater, making yourself available without them earning your time and effort only makes you less desirable, says Matthew.
You should get out of the idea that if you just give enough someone is going to respect us. The British dating coach thinks a man wouldn’t respect you because you’re a giver. Whereas, the realization that “it’s just not given” makes someone value you more.
With over 790,000 followers on TikTok, Nelly Sudri is a dating and relationship coach, known for her content that caters to “high-value single.” She holds a B.S. in Communications from the University of Miami and a master’s in Conflict Resolution and Negotiation from Columbia University.
