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Being attracted to narcissists is down to your personality, says psychologist
If you find yourself always attracted to the same kind of people, it has to do with your own personality. A psychologist says your feelings and emotions toward a romantic partner trace their roots back to your existence.
As we had discussed earlier, there are several reasons for you to end up with emotionally unavailable men despite being careful of your choices. Some of our actions are guided by the subconscious mind, which merits a deeper understanding. Whether you’re attracted to a narcissist, your boss, or a man with Golden Retriever vibes, here’s what it says about you.
What it means to be attracted to a certain type of people
Psychologist Francesca explains in one of her videos how attraction in a romantic setup works while linking different details of our personalities.
The information shared in the video is meant to help you break the pattern if you always attract problematic personalities by looking deeper within yourself.
Narcissist
If you’re known for dating narcissists or people with antagonizing personalities, the chances are you’re a people pleaser, says the psychologist. You go to great lengths to fulfill your romantic partner’s demands while ignoring your well-being.
This is common among those who grew up with parents who are narcissists or emotionally unavailable. Your brain is conditioned to view unacceptable behavior as normal and you are naturally attracted to such people. Francesa says you’re also “easily influenceable” and lack a “stable personality” thus making yourself more vulnerable to narcissists.
Married people
If you’re attracted to a married person, take it as a sign that you aren’t emotionally ready for a meaningful relationship.
“It could mean that you have an idealized version of love in your head. You go for people who are unavailable because it gives you space to fantasize about a relationship without actually being in one,” she explains.
You may also stray from real relationships as they can shatter your fantasies and unrealistic standards.
Your boss
If you are infatuated with your boss, it may imply that you have “daddy or mommy issues,” says the psychologist. It essentially means you like to be told what to do and how to be by a dominating figure, which in psychology leans towards the legit condition “Father Complex”.
The term Daddy issues is a catch-all term that refers to those who struggle with adult intimacy due to unresolved issues with their fathers during childhood,” says relationship expert and psychologist Dr. Betsy Chung, as she explains healthy ways to cope with it.
Francesca Tighinean is a certified psychologist, podcaster, and life coach, known for her content psychology and mental health on social media. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Psychology and a Masters in NLP (Natural Language Processing).
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