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Love coach under fire for saying ‘desirable men’ only chase a certain type of woman
Love and attraction don’t work the same way for all, but a love coach is quite certain about the type of woman most ‘desirable men’ would chase.
Who you attract is down to your personality. Some of us are infamous for almost always falling for emotionally unavailable humans, so dating and relationship coaches have taken it upon themselves to preach about self-worth and being of “high value”, so you don’t end up with the wrong romantic partners.
Love coach defines ‘high-value’ women that attract men
Dating and break-up coach, Lauren Rovis, popular for offering relationship advice discusses the characteristics of women that men find most attractive, but most of her followers feel otherwise.
In her video captioned “high-value men always choose this type of woman,” Lauren says men are attracted to women who are “high maintenance,” before explaining her point of view.
She says “high-maintenance” women, meaning someone who demands a lot of time, effort, money, etc, is what men chase. “The reason that the high-maintenance women get the high-value men is because they have standards,” she says.
She goes on to explain that men are attracted to women who can speak up for their needs and define their boundaries well and “will not accept anything less.”
Whereas, “If you’re the cool girl that’s super chill and doesn’t speak for her needs or boundaries, you get the bare minimum, Lauren says.
People argue that’s ‘not true’
British dating coach Matthew Hussey offers somewhat similar advice to daters – don’t flaunt your good qualities early on in the relationship. People wouldn’t know your worth if they think everything is “just given” to them without trying. He tells you to make people earn your respect, attention, and effort.
However, TikTok users in the comments section for her video “don’t think” her advice is true by arguing that high maintenance is not the same as high value.
When one user said: “Ah no. This is not even close. Good luck with this advice ladies.”, another added: ” another added: “Big difference between high maintenance and high value!! We know the difference.”
“I know what I want, I stick up for myself, I have high standards & expectations. I am NOT high maintenance. I have really strong boundaries,” said a third user.
“There ARE high-value men that don’t make six or seven figures that, healed, chose healed, high-value women,” opined one user, when another added: “This is absolutely not true.”
Another argued: “I’m sorry but a man that is afraid of losing a woman for not buying things is not a high-value man.”
Lauren Rovis is a certified dating coach with over 50,000 followers on TikTok. She helps people “navigate dating, relationships, self-love, intimacy, and connection,” reads her LinkedIn bio. She holds a degree in Psychology and marketing from Virginia Tech.
