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Life coach’s simple tip to feel confident no matter the situation
Feel confident in minutes by listening to advice from a life coach and business owner who claims confidence isn’t a feeling that you can force, it comes from the willingness to try something.
Motivational speaker Mel Robbins explained how to change your perspective on confidence and grow to become more comfortable in your own skin and in any situation. She encourages people to leave their comfort zone and try something new in order to become confident about it. It may feel like climbing a mountain when you try to beat feelings of anxiety, but through small tips and real-life advice, you can get the results you want in no time.
Life coach says confidence ‘isn’t a feeling’
Collins Dictionary states confidence can refer to�a feeling of trust in a person or thing and a belief in one’s own abilities – having self-assurance, in a nutshell, and on a face-value level. However, life coach Mel Robbins suggests “confidence is not a feeling” and instead, “is the willingness to try.”
According to Robbins, confidence is gained from competency, (the ability to do something successfully – to know what you’re doing) and the only way to know what you are doing is from practice.
Practicing something then encourages you to lose your resistance and fear around it, allowing the feeling of confidence to grow.
The business owner says action is at the heart of confidence: “It’s the willingness to try and all you need is to know that if you try, you’re not gonna die, you’re just going to learn something. And when you learn something, it removes a little bit of the insecurity so that it makes it slightly easier to try again.”
How to build confidence in one easy step – repetition
As the host of The Mel Robbins Podcast, the expert has created A Toolkit for Confidence.
In one episode, Mel Robbins spoke about the confidence-competence loop (alignment theorized by Dr. Michael Gottleib et. al), which implies the more willing you are to try something, and the more you actively go and try it, the more competent you will be.
If you feel like you don’t have the confidence to do something, like wear a new style of top for example, you simply just haven’t done it enough times to develop the competence that encourages you to do it again.
So, if you’re feeling anxious and are struggling to find the confidence to pursue something, remember that you will build confidence as long as you are willing to try.
Mel Robbins is a�business owner and a life coach as the host of The Mel Robbins Podcast, author, motivational speaker, and former lawyer who now shares proven tools that empower people to create a better life.�
