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5 ways to be very demure, very mindful in everyday life – you can thank us later
The internet has been engulfed by the rise of the “very demure, very mindful” trend, so The Focus spoke to a relationship coach about infusing your daily lives with the same energy.
Once in a while, between damaging self-image posts, social media apps like TikTok birth hilarious trends that just don’t seem to go anywhere. Just recently we had the dangerous sunburning trend that doctors have cautioned against because of the risk of melanoma.
‘Very demure, very mindful’ has taken off, and we have Jools Lebron to thank
Transgender content creator and soon-to-be icon Jools Lebron (@joolieannie) unknowingly started the worldwide phenomenon last month when she posted a TikTok about her work-appropriate outfit.
You see how I do my makeup for work? Very demure. Very mindful,” she said. I dont come to work with a green-cut crease. I dont look like a clown when I go to work. I dont do too much. Im very mindful while Im at work.
Thanks to Jools’ hilarious delivery, the short and snappy line took off and it is now present in just about every comment section on the internet. Celebrities are even getting involved.
But exactly how do you live your life by such a catchy mantra? To answer that very question, The Focus spoke to bestselling author Laura Doyle, who works as a marriage coach with her own podcast, Empowered Wife.
“The ‘very mindful, very demure’ trend on TikTok emphasizes a return to modesty and mindfulness in various aspects of life,” she told us.
Being demure in your relationships is all about vulnerability
If you want me to be more mindful and demure in your relationships, it’s time to ditch your Soft Guy Era and exercise some vulnerability, Laura said.
Laura explained: “One way to stay demure and mindful in your marriage is by embracing vulnerability. Instead of reacting with frustration or anger, try expressing your feelings in a tender way.
“For example, saying “I miss you” instead of complaining about feeling neglected can foster deeper connection and affection in your relationship .”
When it comes to being more demure at work, it can be as simple as being more grateful and open. Cut down on the constant complaining and take note of the good things, being sure to offer words of encouragement to your colleagues.
“A heartfelt ‘thank you’ can go a long way in creating a positive work environment and maintaining your modesty,” she added.
That same energy can be transferred to your friendships, so resist the urge to “dominate conversations” and instead listen to what people around you are saying. Just remember, there’s a difference between listening and active listening.
Reframe how you say things, the marriage coach suggested
Alongside location-specific advice, Laura further highlighted general advice about being “very demure, very mindful” in your everyday life. Firstly, Laura suggested reframing how you say things to better exhibit the qualities of the trend.
She continued: “For instance, if you’re feeling overwhelmed, instead of saying, ‘I’m so stressed,’ try expressing it as ‘I would love some quiet time to recharge.’ This approach is both respectful and effective in getting your needs met without coming across as demanding .”
Ultimately, she concluded: “Modesty often shines through a calm and composed presence. Whether you’re dealing with a difficult colleague or managing household chaos, strive to remain centered and composed.
“Take deep breaths, pause before responding, and choose your words carefully. This not only reflects modesty but also sets a mindful tone in any situation.”
If a calm exterior is really difficult for you, you might consider some breathing techniques used by Navy SEALs.
