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Woman ditches her fianc� after he orders the wrong sandwich for dinner
A woman has been supported online after threatening to leave her fiance because he got her sandwich order wrong.�
The baffled fiance took to social media to share his confusion after he brought home a tuna sandwich for his girlfriend of three years, despite her having a shellfish allergy. Now, the fiance has moved out and is contemplating ending the relationship.
It might sound ridiculous, but many relate to the situation, and feel that its likely about what the sandwich and forgotten allergy represents in their relationship.�
Dumped over the wrong sandwich
In his Reddit post, the 26-year-old man explained that his fiancee is an ER nurse who is currently recovering from Covid after catching it at work. Finding herself too tired to cook, she asked him to get them a takeaway on the way home from work.
The man chose to visit a popular chain bakery, as he had a buy one, get one free voucher on sandwiches. As per the offer, both sandwiched had to be the same, so he got his wife the same as hima tuna baguette.
I forgot that shes allergic to several types of fish and shellfish including tune, he confessed.
It was an honest mistake on my part but she flipped out. I offered to cook for her. I was going to let it go because she was just getting over being ill but she was still mad the next day and left our flat to go stay with one of her mates.
Besides the tuna, she was also upset that I couldn’t recite her usual Greggs order by heart, or her order from another one of our regular takeaways even though she knew mine. She has a better memory than I do because she needs it for her work.
In his eyes, the sandwich allergy error was a simple mistake that is not worth ending a relationship over, but to her, it means much more. She says the sandwich is just a symptom but thats absurd, he wrote.
The man explained that his fiancee has not yet returned home and says she is reconsidering the relationship. According to the post, his family agrees that the argument is absurd while her family has taken her side.
In fact, the tension is now so deep that his fiancee has instructed him to continue the lease on their flat by himself when it renews next month.
I do love her. I want to marry her. It’s completely absurd to me that I’m in this situation and I cannot believe it, he wrote.
Not just about a sandwich
The mans dilemma runs parallels with writer Matthew Fray, who made a startling revelation in a HuffPost article: his wife divorced him because he didnt do the dishes. What was even more startling, however, is that he now understood why.�
She should recognize how petty and meaningless it is in the grand scheme of life, he thinks, and he keeps waiting for her to agree with him, Fray wrote about his initial views.
She will never agree with him, because for her, its not ACTUALLY about the glass. The glass situation could be ANY situation in which she feels unappreciated and disrespected by her husband, he continued.
In theory, the man wants to fight this fight, because he thinks hes right (and I tend to agree with him): The dirty glass is not more important than marital peace. If his wife thought and felt like him, hed be right to defend himself. Unfortunately, most guys dont know that shes NOT fighting about the glass. Shes fighting for acknowledgment, respect, validation, and his love.
As highlighted by Fray, these marital issues like not doing the dishes or forgetting your wifes allergies might seem small, but its often more about what it says about how much you care and how you love.�
I understand that when I leave that glass there, it hurts her literally causes her pain because it feels to her like I just said: Hey. I dont respect you or value your thoughts and opinions. Not taking four seconds to put my glass in the dishwasher is more important to me than you are., he detailed.
Now, its a meaningful act of love and sacrifice, and really? Four seconds? That doesnt seem like the kind of thing too big to do for the person who sacrifices daily for me. I dont have to understand WHY she cares so much about that stupid glass. I just have to understand and respect that she DOES. �
Reddit users agree with the woman
Perhaps to the surprise of the poster, Reddit users have seemingly sided with the fiance, reasoning that its likely about more than just the sandwich.
Heres her side. Its been three years since weve been together. Ive memorized his favorite take outs and know what to order for him every time we go to our favorite places. Im just recovering from COVID and Im a nurse. I came home exhausted and asked him to pick me up a sandwich. I have food allergies. After three years, I assumed he knew. It was buy one, get one but must be identical sandwiches. He got what he wanted and I cant eat it because Im allergic to tuna. I lost it. I cant even count on my fiance to get me a sandwich when I am so exhausted, wrote one user.
This is not the first time and I’m afraid that this will be my life if I marry him. He will never make an effort to remember my allergies and not take my needs seriously. It started as a sandwich but its one of the things he never remembers about me. Ive left. He doesnt understand how its not about a sandwich. Its about how he doesnt see me.
Another user agreed, sharing a similar sentiment, writing: Im going to start with that shes not ending things with you over a sandwich. Thats just the straw that broke the camel’s back. My guess is that there have been lots of things you just havent remembered or forgotten about her over the course of your three-year relationship that have made her feel like shes not that important.
A food allergy is a pretty big deal and you just forgot and got what you wanted to eat and got the same for her because you had a coupon? You werent thinking of her. She was an afterthought dude. If you were thinking of her, you would have gotten something SHE liked and you would have gotten the same as her, but your brain didnt work that way, they continued.
Id be willing to bet theres lots of examples like that in your relationship. It may be time to take a step back and reflect on that.
Another simply summarized: You’ve been with her for three years and the fact she cant eat seafood slipped your mind? Dude? You didnt break up over a sandwich.
The original poster has not yet shared an update on the situation.
