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Widower navigating dating for the first time in years discovers bitter reality of dating apps
Finding love on dating apps is hard as it is – it’s a trickier situation for people with little or no exposure. A widower new to the modern dating technique is using his experience to educate others about the dos and don’ts of online platforms meant to find romance.
Re-entering the dating scene can be daunting, especially if you have taken a long break or are recovering from a traumatic past. Despite its convenience, relationship experts argue it can be detrimental to your mental health.
Widower explores dating apps for the first time
Steve is a widower in his mid-40s, exploring dating apps for the first time in years since his wife passed away.
His experience with virtual romance has been a “steep learning curve” with hiccups and disappointment, as with anybody using dating apps.
Gone are the good ol’ days when lovers met organically and bonded over clear intentions and shared values. Romance in today’s world is sadly transactional, especially if you lean on technology to find love.
Steve was faced with the bitter reality of this when he re-entered dating scenes, only to realize that you can’t take online daters at face value.
He assumed that women he matched with on dating apps were always looking for a meaningful relationship, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Using his own experience as a warning, Steve says: “There’s a lot of people that are in relationships or already married looking for something else; a lot of people lying about their true intentions.”
It’s easy to get deceived on a dating apps when a profile is all you have to create an impression of the person you intend to date. Therefore, you should be aware of the obvious red flags.
His advice to avoid red flags
You also wouldn’t want to dismiss possibilities of finding love on dating apps altogether if other options are limited; Steve advises being mindful of every swipe and match.
In one of his recent videos, he discusses the dos and don’ts that can save you a lot of trouble and heartache. Firstly, you should never entertain someone who doesn’t share the same values as you and worse, makes you question your reality – a major red flag.
And, if you’re truly looking for a serious relationship, Steve recommends creating a profile that reflects positivity, which increases your chances of meeting people with similar mindset about healthy relationship.
“What you do is, you keep this at the front of you mind and you stay positive and remind yourself that anybody that gets nasty, get ugly or even just doesn’t meet your criteria is not somebody you would have wanted to match with anyways,” he says.
