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Wellness coach’s inspiring message for anyone afraid of their loved ones dying
Death is an inevitable part of life, but thinking about your loved ones no longer being here is something many struggle with.
If you are one of those people, this wellness coach’s message will change your perspective and ensure you live each day to the fullest.
Message for people afraid of loved ones dying
Emily Kessler, a meditation and wellness coach, helps people get over the worry of those special to them passing away by telling them one thing.
“This is inevitability, people die, this is just a fact of life, and what I always say is that instead of worrying about someone dying, be with them while they’re alive,” she said.
The coach recommends spending time with the person and investing in the relationship while they are here rather than stressing about things you can’t change.
Do things together that bring you both joy and work on the fullness of that relationship while appreciating them and being grateful in the moment.
“This is the only thing we have control over,” Kessler continued. “We don’t have control over when or how anyone in our life dies, we only have control over the relationship right now in the present moment.”
How to overcome a fear of death
A British poll by YouGov found that 41% of people are afraid of dying and 63% said they are more worried about the death of a loved one.
To overcome this, UK Therapy Guide recommends accepting that death is a natural process, being grateful, living in the present and making the most out of life. Making plans for your own passing can also take the fear away, such as writing a will or choosing where you would like to be buried.
A little bit of death anxiety is normal, but an extreme fear of yourself or those around you dying can seriously impact your life. This is called thanatophobia, a phobia that’s often triggered by a traumatic experience related to dying such as the loss of someone close to you or witnessing a painful death.
Symptoms can include chills, dizziness, sweating, nausea, heart palpitations, shortness of breath, trembling and an upset stomach in a situation surrounding death, Cleveland Clinic explains.
If you think you have thanatophobia, it’s best to speak to a medical professional who will be able to offer further guidance. For many, therapy helps with intense phobias, but cognitive behavioral therapy and exposure therapy are other common treatments that work to change the way you think.
Emily Kessler is a certified meditation teacher and wellness coach based in Brooklyn who helps people go from “stressed, anxious, overwhelmed & overthinking” to “calm, patient, rejuvenated & joyful”.
