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Wedding planner slams couples that expect guests to cover their ‘plate cost’ in gift money
A wedding planner divided opinions online after sharing it makes her sick to hear stories of couples expecting to recoup their money through guests.
Melissa Andre took to TikTok in a video that has since been viewed over 500,000 times, to give her view on how much guests should really be gifting newlyweds.
Her view on couples that hope guests will give back as much money as they spent on the wedding has split opinions.
Recouping the costs of their wedding
Andre stitched a video posted by a wedding guest to TikTok in which the guest voiced confusion over how much money she should put into the card nowadays.
The wedding planner explained that she hears this question a lot and has an unpopular opinion for her answer. She added that the two primary considerations should be your own financial position and how close you are to the marrying couple.
Although Andre claims the average wedding gift is around $100, she says it’s up to the guests to simply give what they can and that the couple should not have any expectations of what they should receive.
When I hear couples talking about recouping the cost of their wedding from their guests, it makes me sick. I hate it. I think its such an awful way to talk about your guests, she said.
Your guests are not there to pay your honeymoon or to pay off your outstanding bills for your vendors for the wedding. If they do, then great, she added. But the expectations that some couples have that I hear on here all the time about recouping costs from their guests is in very poor taste. �
Comparing guests to patrons
Andre said she once heard a newlywed compare guest to restaurant patrons, claiming that you wouldnt expect not to pay while eating at a restaurant.
Your guests are not your patrons. They didnt choose the menu, they didnt choose the date, they didnt choose the location, she said.
The TikTok started a fiery debate
After posting the video, wedding planner Andres comments were flooded with divided opinions on how much guests should pay.
Imagine putting the newlyweds in debt, commented one TikTok user, disagreeing with Andre. If you cant afford to go – dont. COVER YOUR PLATE plus gift.
Others however felt Andre was correct in her stance, arguing that its not the guests’ job to pay for a wedding they didnt plan. Why would you blame a couple over-extending and throwing a wedding they cant pay for on guests? Its no ones job to pay for your wedding, wrote one user.
Having a wedding is a choice the newlyweds make. If they go into debt that doesnt fall on the guests, agreed another.
