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Two mindset changes can help you get over a painful breakup, dating advisor says
Sometimes, love burns you so much that you are afraid to give yourself a second chance. But a dating expert has two pieces of advice to help you move on.
Not only is it hard to find “the one”, but making a relationship work isn’t any less challenging. Not all breakups are mutual and more often than not, one party ends up hurting way more than the other.
How to get over a bad breakup by changing your mindset
Dating and relationships expert Matthew Hussey says if the past holds you back from meeting someone, you must realize two things that’ll make you look at dating differently.
Know that you will heal
The dating expert says you should believe that you’ll heal no matter how badly you’ve been hurt in the past.
What seems like a big deal now won’t remain the same always. There will come a time when you’ll stop hurting over the memories of the past.
For all you know, you may meet a perfect partner who is willing to create happier memories. So the pain doesn’t last forever.
There’s someone out there for you
Matthew says there will be someone who is “equivalent to you”. This doesn’t mean they would have had experiences similar to yours, but the intensity of their past can be the same.
There is someone for you who is more compassionate and willing to work through the pain and trauma as a couple.
“You don’t need to come ready-made. You need to come open, humble, and willing to do the work. And to meet someone who meets you in that place,” says the dating expert.
Matthew Hussey is a popular British dating and relationship coach. Hes best known for his series Get The Guy on YouTube as well as his podcast, which he uses to help women navigate relationships and dating lives.
Hes the New York Times bestselling author and has appeared in television shows including Ready for Love, So Cosmo, and The Single Wives among others.
