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Stop sugarcoating your feelings to please people, says communication expert
We always wonder what others think before sharing our thoughts and opinions, specifically when communicating with people close to us.
While communication is key to any healthy relationship, beating around the bush or sugarcoating the facts doesn’t get the outcome you desire. A keynote speaker always encourages an honest dialogue.
Why you should always have a direct conversation
Why do we resort to an indirect conversation? Fear of retaliation, fear of coming on too strong, and the fear of judgment to name a few.
However, extreme niceness can do more damage than good because it fails to communicate what you intend to say and also makes the person on the receiving end seem “weak” to cope with the honest dialogue.
Trial lawyer, author, and keynote speaker Jefferson Fisher was on Mel Robbins’ podcast, when he spoke in depth about the need for “direct communication”, especially with your loved ones.
He says coming at a conversation indirectly implies that you don’t believe the other person is “emotionally strong enough to handle this.”
Whereas, being honest makes the listener feel they are strong enough to deal with whatever you have to say, and “you strengthen them,” says the communication expert.
It has more benefits
Explaining his previous point further about handing over strength to the listener, Jefferson says that direct communication works like an “armor”, and prepares your loved ones to deal with anything thrown at them.
“In many ways, what you say to them is going to give them the value that you want them to hold,” he continues. You should always tell them the quality you want them to have and they’ll “rise to it.”.
The next time you think of sharing the truth with your friend or a family member, you may want to start by saying that you believe they have the strength to handle it, which naturally makes them more confident.
Jefferson Fisher is an internet personality, lawyer, and author known for his podcast ‘Communicate With Confidence’. His “practical approach” to effective communication has amassed millions of followers on social media.
