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Run for the hills if your date never disagrees with you, says therapist
Dating is hard as it is. If you’re looking for a meaningful relationship, being aware of red flags that aren’t discussed enough is essential to save yourself from heartache and disappointment.
Ignoring obvious red flags early on in the relationship can be detrimental to your mental health and overall well-being in the long run. Daters with narcissistic traits are notorious for sucking you into a relationship with their twisted tactics and then expecting you to accommodate their demands. But, a therapist’s advice could help you make better dating choices.
A major red flag you should never ignore
You met someone, and the two of you hit off. You’ve gone on plenty of dates and have had endless conversations. But, the person you’re going out with never disagrees with anything you say or do.
Being on the receiving end of love bombing, you may think of it as “sweet” and “understanding.” Please don’t fall for it! Licensed therapist Jeff Guenther calls this a major red flag.
While discussing the problematic behaviors people often overlook at the beginning of the relationship, he says you should never date someone who says yes to everything.
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This essentially means they are faking it by hiding their opinions, which could be an issue when expressed. Obviously, that’s not a good sign.
The therapist says you should never trust people without an opinion, or those who blindly agree with you.
More signs that aren’t discussed enough
There are more things daters do when their intentions with you aren’t genuine. If someone says “I am not good enough for you”, take it as a warning sign.
Jeff says people use self-doubt to avoid commitment or deeper connection while getting what they want from you. This is a common tactic emotionally unavailable daters use to string you along.
Next on the list is self-validation. When someone emphasizes, that they are honest, perhaps they are using that as “a cover for being mean,” he says.
The therapist strongly recommends against dating people who love to be a part of controversies – too common on social media. If you find your date posting mean comments on X (formerly Twitter), run for the hills.
Jeff Guenther is a licensed therapist with a private practice focusing on couples and individuals. He received his master’s degree in marriage and family therapy from the University of Southern California, and my bachelor’s degree in child and family development from San Diego State University. He makes one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram in his spare time to help people navigate dating and complex relationships.
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