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Narcissists always have a game plan in place to ruin your celebrations, says counselor
A special occasion with a narcissist is absolutely devastating. They do everything in their power to ruin it, so you’re devoid of any attention.
One of the primary reasons people become too invested in a narcissistic relationship is because of the devious tactics they use. Sadly, their game becomes all the more confusing and toxic during celebrations close to your heart.
Watch out for special occasions with a narcissist
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are highly entitled, which demands more attention on any special day – even on your birthday.
As Emmy award-winning Journalist and certified domestic violence counselor, Danielle Radin points out – they say or do all the wrong things to blow up your relationship on your special day.
This may include not acknowledging the importance of the occasion, downplaying it, getting you presents you dislike or nothing at all, and picking a fight out of nowhere.
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They can’t stand that you’re the center of attention. The consequences of their actions and words can be so scarring that it’ll serve as a reminder to never indulge in celebration again or you’ll automatically set low expectations for the next time.
Whatever they do is to ensure their needs are met, even if it means to take away the only day meant to celebrate your life and existence.
This is why victims of narcissistic abuse or people stuck in a toxic relationship with them lose their confidence and become too withdrawn.
Beat them at their game
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist or your parents happen to have NPD, you need to beat them at their own game to enjoy your special days.
They know just the thing to say – which you would have begged them not to mention – to tick you off. Therefore, the best way to tackle their moves is through the grey rocking method.
You should become immune to their actions and completely ignore their reactions. They will still try to jangle your last nerve when you should say:
“I’m having a great time with my friends and my family. There’s literally nothing you can do to ruin this event for me.” Say this and go about enjoying your day and let them deal with their frustration.
Toxic people like narcissists feed on drama, so your silence almost destroys them because they can’t tell what’s going on in your mind, which means they are losing control over you.
Trauma bond from the constant highs and lows of a difficult relationship makes it impossible to leave, but educating yourself about the mental health condition is important to heal and plan a safe escape with the help of the right support.
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