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Men are attracted to ‘nurturing women’, says psychologist, but receives backlash
Attraction is the driving force of any romantic relationship, and every individual desires a certain characteristic in their partner.
When asked what about women attracts men the most, psychologist and relationship expert, Sadia Khan, revealed a “feminine trait” that’s left users divided. A different expert shared traits women desire the most in men and no, it’s not money.
Psychologist reveals what men like most in women
Although couples don’t have to share the same characteristics to make the relationship work, there are always specific things they like about each other.
If you think men desire good-looking women or someone who can trigger the “hero instinct” in them, Sadia’s response will surprise you. She said that most men, without realizing it, are attracted to women who can be nurturing.
“I think the real thing that they find attractive in women is a woman who is incredibly nurturing,” she says, before sharing her opinion that a man, regardless of how self-sufficient or masculine he is, secretly loves to be taken care of.
Said says: “When a woman takes care or predicts his needs before he says it, he can’t help but melt.” She refers to little acts of service – perhaps the lady’s love language – such as offering them a hot beverage or keeping their work clothes ready for the next day to make a man fall for his romantic partner.
Expert opinion doesn’t sit well with users
The psychologist explains it’s a default conditioning in most men that makes them think they don’t desire to be nurtured, but love it when they receive it.
As Sadia also mentioned in her response, some may think of it as “oppressive” or “toxic”, which is obvious in the reactions her video got.
When one user commented: “In my experience, this works for my husband because his love language is acts of service,” another said: “Nah, did this. Felt like his mom and didnt appreciate”
A third comment read: “Doesn’t work. He ends up screaming ‘You are not my mother.'” Another person said: “This is very true, she didn’t say make coffee or iron for him. Your ability to predict his needs before he asked for it, it’s melting.”
Sadia Khan is a relationship coach and psychologist, who helps couples navigate the complexities of modern relationships. She holds a BSc in Psychology, a Masters in Education and Developmental Psychology, Qualified Teachers Status, and Diplomas in Psychotherapy, Advanced CBT, Psychoanalysis, and Inner Child Healing.
