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Married men cheat on their wives when they feel neglected, says psychologist
Though infidelity is strongly condemned in our society, psychologists and relationship experts have tried to understand what drives the unacceptable behavior, and maybe stop them from repeating their mistakes.
But what if cheating is an intentional choice a man makes in his wife’s absence? Could any excuse justify the betrayal? People who are anti-cheating didn’t take it well when a psychologist explained the mindset of a cheating husband while breaking down the main reason they start a relationship outside their marriage.
Why a married man cheats, according to psychologist
Psychologist and relationship coach Sadia Khan talks about infidelity, but from a man’s perspective while being fully aware of the reaction it was going to gather.
She begins by saying: “Women get really offended when I tell them this.” and goes on to clarify that it isn’t the wife’s fault. However, not all, but some men seek validation outside their marriage when they don’t get it from their significant other.
The psychologist says, that when women become mothers, they naturally focus all their time and attention on their children and it is biological. “We have the hormones, we have the obsession, we get so much oxytocin from just kissing that child. What happens is, she doesn’t even see her husband anymore,” Sadia explains.
The husband, she says, starts to feel like a “stranger in his own home” as his wife can’t stop thinking about the baby. Even though the man feels more neglected with time, Said says, he may find it “weird” to share with his wife his genuine feelings.
While some men might be thrilled to jump right into the paternal duties, others may go somewhere else seeking the lost attention. Sadia explains one of the common reasons infidelity occurs in marriage, but she doesn’t justify the behavior or condemn it.
The reason enrages users
Unlike the Tolyamorous relationship in which cheating isn’t seen as a dealbreaker, and is accepted despite lack of acknowledgment, TikTok users don’t think infidelity should be overlooked because the husband puts his needs before his family’s.
Many believe, that regardless of the nature of the infidelity, as some seek physical relationships and others emotional, the husband must openly communicate his needs with his wife and work through their issues before breaking the sacred bond of marriage.
Several parents have argued that the husband wouldn’t lack emotional intimacy and attention if he managed parental duties equally, giving his wife a break to think about the relationship.
One user commented the husband should help out with the children, not only will he grow a bond with his child but also get more of that one-on-one time with his wife.
“The wife would see her husband if the husband connects with their child like the mother does its that simple,” said another.
A third person wrote: “Unfortunately it’s true, but again, that’s why couples must need to be closer because of the lack of communication”
Sadia Khan is a relationship coach and psychologist, helping couples navigate the complexities of modern relationships. She holds a BSc in Psychology, Master’s in Education and Developmental Psychology, Qualified Teachers Status, and Diplomas in Psychotherapy, Advanced CBT, Psychoanalysis, and Inner Child Healing.
