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Man believes his third marriage will last the ages after being ‘scared’ the first two times
People get married for different reasons, but doing it for the wrong ones leaves you with many regrets. One man, divorced twice, had a realization in his third marriage that changed his life.
Marriage is supposed to better you as a human with the support and love of your partner. But being stuck in a relationship out of compulsion doesn’t do good to anyone. While some resort to infidelity or unconventional arrangements to make a marriage work, others crave a new beginning.
‘Biggest regret’ of a two-time divorcee
A 58-year-old man appeared in an interview video for the channel Sprouht, which is popular for featuring inspirational videos born out of real-life experiences.
When the content creator asked the man what his “biggest regret” in life was, he responded that doing things “out of fear” is what he wished not to have done when he was younger.
He blames it for the failure of his two marriages while explaining more about the fear he was met with at the age of 21. He says he got married because: “The first one was the fear of being alone; the second one was being alone-er.”
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He regrets getting married young while he was still in college because he missed out on a lot of things that others of his age experienced. Although it’s not the marriage that he regrets, it’s the decision to do it out of fear.
Do it out of promise instead
He stayed single for 17 years until he met Tammy, his current wife. They both had no intention of getting married.
But, when they got to know each other and realized they “wanted to” take their relationship ahead, they tied the knot. “Doing things out of fear rather than promise is a mistake,” he says, before sharing he “found promise in Tammy.”
A lot of marriages fall apart when the two partners’ values don’t align. In fact, there is a common time when most relationships tend to end.
Marriage and relationship counselor, Kim Polinder claims, years 3,7,11, and 15 are when most couples call it quit on their marriage.
The relationship becomes stagnant after 7 years, according to Kim. They start questioning their life choices to see if they are going in different directions about various aspects of life.
