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Five simple steps to the perfect ‘Solo Date’
In the age of serial dating where very few seem to find what they are looking for in a partner, many are now turning towards solo dates. Taking yourself out and having a nice experience by yourself is a great way of taking control of your mood and if done frequently enough solo dating can change your life.
Solo dating is as exactly as it sounds. You take yourself out to have an amazing experience as opposed to waiting till you find a boyfriend/girlfriend or a friend to do it with. With everyone you know getting busier by the day, there’s no better person to turn to for having fun than yourself. A fun experience can mean different things to different people. To some it’s a good meal at a restaurant, to others, it’s a picnic at the local park with a fair bit of reading. Some even edge towards going to an amusement park. Here are five simple tips to enhance your solo dating experience.
Your perfect solo date in five simple steps
Disconnect from your phone (no calls, no texts, and no social media)
The need for a technological detox cannot be stressed enough when it comes to a solo date. Being on your phone too much can ruin both a two-person or a solo date effectively. Remember you are out by yourself to disconnect with the monotony of daily life and that also involves using phone and social media.
Nobody’s Instagram story or TikTok is more important than your ‘me time’ and the phone call from your gossipy relative can be avoided too. If you’ve taken yourself out for a fancy meal a simple snap of your food is allowed. You can also click a couple of snaps of yourself if you are especially pleased with your look that day. But that’s as far as it goes.
Dress up
You don’t have to be dressed up to the nines but make sure you put at least a little effort to look slightly different than your usual look. It may be a different bracelet, a different pair of earrings, or a different watch than the one you usually wear. It could also be a new hairstyle. But honor your solo date like you would a date with a special one. That being said if you are too tired to shave your arms and legs for your solo date, that’s ok.
Explore new music en route to your destination
Whether your solo date involves walking to a nearby park or taking a cab to a restaurant, make sure you spice the whole experience up with music. Nothing makes an experience more special than new music. Do not skip as a new track starts playing on your Spotify list and actively pick songs you haven’t heard before. If you feel more adventurous, pick a whole new genre. Our minds associate many experiences with music and finding a new favorite track on your solo date would make it quite a memorable experience.
Keep heavy topics at bay
All our minds have the habit of wandering off when we are not actively engaged in an activity. Make sure yours does not wander off to a heavy or negative topic. Even if something is pressing that you need to address in your daily life, your solo date is not the time to do so. Make sure you actively change your thought train’s direction towards lighter topics. Once you are re-energized from your new experience, you can return home and hit those heavy subjects hard with a new and refreshed perspective.
Don’t give into guilt or shyness
We are not pretending that eating alone in public is not nerve-wracking for someone new to it. At the same time if you are a parent you may also have feelings of guilt for taking alone time away from your kids. However, guilt and shyness have no place on your special day. Know that even if people are watching you as you eat your meal, it’s only for a few seconds. When it comes to guilt, a solo date will leave you feeling positive and energized helping you get home and be the best parent you can to your little ones.
