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Divorce lawyer links being ‘obsessed with your children’ to marriage breakdown
If you are obsessed with your children, that could be a sign things are about to head south in your relationship.
A top divorce lawyer has revealed there is a link between being totally enamoured by your kids and getting divorced.
Being ‘obsessed with your children’ leads to divorce
Speaking on Steven Bartlett’s Diary Of A CEO podcast, James Sexton said being “obsessed” with your children means your marriage is likely to fail.
“If you make your children your absolute number one priority and your spouse falls very far down that list, yes for sure [you are more likely to divorce],” he said.
The attorney clarified that he isn’t talking about those who love their children and are focused on being a good parent.
It’s an obsession with your kids that puts being a mother or father as life’s only priority, like nothing else in the world matters, that increases the divorce rate.
“People who are obsessed with their children stop paying attention to themselves and to their partner. That’s been my experience,” Sexton explained.
‘Childhood is a temporary state’
He went on to remind parents that “childhood is a temporary state” but being with your spouse is a lifelong thing.
You raise your children for 18 years, and then they are supposed to leave, live their own lives and start their own families.
“Your partner is not supposed to in 19 years or 18 years move out. They’re supposed to stay there,” the divorce lawyer continued.
So, it’s really important to “also feed that relationship” and support your partner’s needs on top of raising your kids.
If you don’t give time to your partner too, your life will only revolve around the children, which can lead to the marriage breaking down.
Loving your partner makes you a great role model
Everyone wants to be a good parent and raise their kids right. However, it’s not only your parenting that they will remember.
Being a great, supportive co-parent and partner to your other half is also a “wonderful gift to give to your children” that models great relationship behavior to them.
“It’s showing that you love and respect the other person who loves them as much as you do,” Sexton explained.
He claimed there is so much good in being a great parent that is made up of being a good co-parent, spouse and partner.
James Sexton is one of the world’s leading�divorce lawyers, practising in divorce and family law in the New York metropolitan area.
