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Dating expert reveals three things you should do to guarantee a second date
If youre hoping to secure yourself a second date, then you may want to try these three simple tactics recently shared by dating guru Matthew Hussey.�
Some first dates are undeniably nerve-wracking, with both parties anxiously choosing what to say and at what moment. Others are easy-breezy and flow nicely. Besides the date itself, the waiting game for another message or phone call is the most stressful, but these relatively simple tips could help you bag the second date and put those worries at ease.�
Lead with your most beautiful energy
Matthew Hussey is a British life coach and dating expert with decades of experience. When hes not writing books or giving talks, Matthew offers glowing advice to his followers on social media.�
In his latest video about keeping someones interest, the 36-year-old recently-married man shared some insight into upping your chances of a second, or maybe even third date.
At first, the above statement could seem like hippie-dippie nonsense, after all, arent we all leading with our best selves when trying to make a date a long-term commitment? But, as Matthew explained, its unique to each individual.
Now, you get to decide what your most beautiful energy is, whether its a very affectionate person, a very sweet person, a very playful person, a person who laughs a lot, a lot who is very smiley, a person who is very curious, very interested, he explained to his 1.7 million followers. Bring that person forward first.
The Cosmopolitan-featured expert said that many people turn up to a date with their shields up, having been hurt before. Instead, we need to flip the script and arrive as our best selves.�
Share your vulnerability
This one is arguably the hardest, but Matthew said that leading with your vulnerability is not about sharing your worst stories early on in the dating process.
He explained: Showing someone vulnerability is giving someone a glimpse of who you are at your core. The things that you are passionate about to give them a sense of what you really like.
He also noted that most people lead with what theyve done, and what theyve achieved, which acts as a constructed identity.
Bring out the best in that person
When youre done being vulnerable and opening up about your hearts desires, its time to pass the mic and focus on your date. This is the perfect opportunity to let them reveal their truth, with some help from you!
Ask questions that allow them to reveal what is important to them, he said, further noting how its important to show a genuine interest in someone as a person.
He continued: This isnt about fawning over someone, and its not about talking about qualities that arent really there to flatter that person.
Its about genuinely being present enough with someone that you actually slow down enough to notice the little things along the way that make them interesting. That make them uniquely impressive. What makes them like someone you havent come across before?
