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Dating expert says men can make themselves more attractive by ‘learning how to talk’
If you’re a man who is unlucky in love, this dating doctor’s tip to make you ‘more attractive’ could be the answer.
From dressing better to improving your hygiene, there are all kinds of things you can do to help yourself romantically, but Dr. Orion Taraban claims communication is most important.
One way men can be more attractive
Speaking on Steven Bartlett’s Dairy Of A CEO podcast, the psychologist who specializes in dating said all men need to do is “learn how to talk”. Men are stereotypically bad at sharing their feelings and communicating, but that’s what women really want in a partner.
“The most vulnerable organ in a woman’s seduction is her mind, her brain,” he said. “That is her most erogenous zone and if you can learn to talk to women in a way that women will listen and respond to, you’ll be able to do all kinds of things and have all kinds of relationships.”
Men communicate on a very simplistic level, but women do so with much more “emotional resonance,” which is the ability to connect with others on a deeper level. They want men to match this with their own emotional experience.
“Think of it like tuning forks,” he continued. “One of them is vibrating. Bring another one up to it, it will start vibrating at the same frequency as well and that’s when you know that the communication has been received.”
Once you are able to talk to a woman on that much deeper emotional level, this opens the door for romantic success and could lead to a long and happy relationship.
Intelligence seen as most important trait
A 2024 study into what people actually look for in a partner highlights the importance of being able to talk even further.
Participants in Brazil were asked to construct their ideal partner based on a list of traits including status, health, intelligence, kindness and attractiveness. They ranked intelligence as the most important, followed by kindness, physical attractiveness, health, and lastly socioeconomic status.
Communication is a form of emotional intelligence, so this proves that the ability to talk is the most desirable quality in a relationship.
Effective communication is all about listening to the other person, expressing your own feelings and being willing to compromise, Healthline explains. Don’t use passive-aggressive behavior, get angry, give the silent treatment or brush things under the rug.
Dr. Orion Taraban is a psychologist who specializes in relationships, personal development, and mens mental health. He is best known for the popular podcast PsycHacks and graduated with a degree in Clinical Psychology from Alliant International University.
