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Dad’s ‘gold’ dating advice to daughter who put her man on a pedestal
Making less-than-stellar choices in dating is common. Sometimes, when we are head over heels for the wrong person, parental advice is much-needed to knock us back to reality.
Finding the right dating partner can be tricky, especially in today’s world when you can reject or get rejected in a single swipe. However, becoming aware of obvious red flags in dating and finding your true worth can save you a lot of heartache.
Dad’s dating advice to his daughter
Fathers usually aren’t as good as they think when it comes to making jokes, but they sure know who makes the best boyfriend or husband to their dear daughters.
TikTok user Ashley Vega has made a video about one piece of dating advice her dad shared with her when she was with the wrong guy.
When Ashley’s father realized she had put her boyfriend on a pedestal, he told her to always put herself first. She goes on to quote his exact words.
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“If the guy is not giving you what you want in a relationship, someone else will. If he is not making you feel special, if he’s not taking you on dates, or if he isn’t being consistent or healthy towards you, then someone else will.”
The wise man also told his daughter that if a guy is quick to find someone else after you and moves on easily, he wouldn’t treat his new partner any better. So, you’re better off without such a man in your life.
Ashley’s father further explained that men often come back crawling to you when they can’t find someone as good as you. But you should always find someone who puts you on a pedestal.
Women say the advice is ‘gold’
Several female TikTok users in the comments under Ashley’s video have thanked her dad for sharing the most useful piece of dating advice.
One user called it “gold advice”, and another added: “My dad always told me to never make myself too available to anyone and he was also so right.”
Another woman with a similar opinion about men who move on quickly wrote: “My dad says if someone else can take him away so easily consider it good riddance.”
“I never had a dad so thank you queen I needed to hear this,” commented a third one.
No matter how into someone you are, putting them before you only makes you seem desperate and this could leave you stuck with partners who aren’t emotionally available.
British dating expert Mathew Hussey says women endure heartbreak more because they create a static image of the person they like before getting to know them instead of prioritizing their needs.
You also shouldn’t flaunt your good qualities early on in the relationship as it makes you less desirable. Mathew says you should get out of the idea that if you just give enough someone is going to respect us. Nope, ladies. Hes got to earn it.
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