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Couple married for 69 years share their secret to a long and happy relationship
With so many marriages ending in divorce, it’s hard to believe in true love – but one couple has shared their secret to a long relationship.
They have been happily married for a staggering 69 years, and their advice for a healthy coupling seems so simple but is so important.
Secret to a long and happy marriage
The couple were stopped by TikTok user Yair Brachiyahu, who interviews members of the public in the street about their life advice.
When asked their secret to staying together for 69 years, the wife replied: “Just never to fight. No fighting, great marriage.”
Disagreements are normal and you’re not always going to agree with what your partner says, but it’s how you deal with it that’s important.
Most fights are easily avoidable, and rather than arguing or being hot-headed, you can solve things calmly and without conflict. Disputes should be positive and bring you closer as a couple rather than hostile, which only pulls you apart.
We spoke to James Preece, relationship expert and one of the UK’s leading dating coaches, who told The Focus: “If your conversation is getting heated, then it’s easy to try and out shout or argue them. The problem is that this usually makes things worse.”
You naturally want to be heard and make your point, but this won’t happen if you are both angry and worked up. He said the secret is to “take a breath, pause and speak quietly instead”.
“More importantly, demonstrate that you are listening and take on board what they are saying. Even if you don’t agree, they want to know you are taking them seriously and will have no choice but to calm down too.”
‘You have to bend a little bit’
Her husband added that you have to “bend a little bit” to stay together, and she replied: “You’ve got to bend a lot.”
By that, they mean you need to be prepared to compromise and accept that there is a difference of opinion.
Sometimes, you may have to do something you don’t really want to do to please the other person in the relationship.
“You have to accept the good and the bad in the person,” the wife continued.
No one is perfect, but you have to accept the positive and negative and stand by that person through everything that life throws.
