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‘Best pickup line’ is to just be honest about your anxiety, dating expert claims
Pickup lines can be great conversation openers when you want to chat with a potential love interest but don’t know what to say – but what is the best one?
A dating expert has claimed that the best pickup line is actually to not use a cheesy joke at all. Instead, just tell the truth and be honest about your anxiety.
Dating expert reveals the ‘best pickup line’
Speaking on Steven Bartlett’s Diary Of A CEO podcast, Dr. Orion Taraban, a psychologist who specializes in relationships, said that you need to be upfront about your feelings and tell the person you want to talk but are nervous.
When you think about it, that’s all a pickup line really is. A way of trying to cover up the fact that you want to ask a stranger out on a date but are a bit scared, so you use an attention-grabbing phrase to cover up your nerves and start the conversation.
“One of the best pick-up lines that I used when I was getting over my approach anxiety in San Francisco is I’d go up and say ‘Hi. Hey, How you doing? What brings you out here tonight’ and I’d say ‘I’m actually trying to get over my approach anxiety,” the dating expert explained.
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Telling the person that you have anxiety about approaching them might seem a little strange, but it’s actually a great conversation starter which shows your vulnerability “in a good way” by revealing exactly how you feel in the moment.
Being vulnerable makes women ‘see you’
Taraban explained that being vulnerable from the off is a good thing which could actually increase your chances of dating success, especially if you are a man trying to attract a woman.
“Useful definition of vulnerability is that I am sharing with you my present moment emotional experience, whatever that is,” he said. “That makes it easier for women to see you.”
When you start to share some of your present experience, it helps women see you more clearly because you’re putting something out there that they can potentially resonate with.
Without being a little bit vulnerable, the dating expert said it’s “very difficult” to get anything to happen romantically.
Try it next time you want to ask someone out! If it doesn’t work, this quirky Netflix quote is becoming the must-use pickup line of 2024.
Dr. Orion Taraban is a licensed psychologist specializing in relationships, personal development, and men’s mental health. He created the popular podcast PsycHacks and gained his degree in Clinical Psychology from Alliant International University in San Francisco Bay.
