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77-year-old shares the unexpected turn life took after his first heartbreak
Who could tell you better about life and heartbreak than a veteran rejected by the woman he loved? Years later, he shares how life changed for good after a lost relationship.
To break up with someone you love stings, it’s harder to let go of an unrequited love because you value someone more than yourself. But, as the age-old saying goes – One door closes and another one opens.
77-year-old talks about his first heartbreak
The unnamed 77-year-old man often appears on the Retirement House Podcast where he talks about various aspects of life. In one of the episodes, he discusses his first heartbreak.
He was madly in love with a woman, who didn’t feel the same way about him. He moved cities following her in the hopes of making the relationship work, only to get rejected.
She tried to let me know of her disinterest in so many ways. “She moved to Dayton, Ohio, I moved to Dayton Ohio. She moved to Cleveland, I moved to Cleveland,” he says. She then moved to New York, but her uncle knocked sense into him and made it obvious that his niece wasn’t romantically interested anymore.
He was homeless when she left him, with no money to afford food. A lady working at a restaurant where he ate a full meal but couldn’t afford to pay, helped him buy a bus ticket to Ohio.
He was on his way back to where he came from looking for love when he spotted a billboard on top of the bus station. It read: “Join the navy and see the world.” He continues “Less than four months later I was in Vietnam.”
That’s why they say you should trust the process!
How to cope with rejection in modern day
Unlike before when times were simpler, dating is complex in today’s world. People reject and get rejected in a single swipe and the aftermath of such failed romantic attempts can be detrimental to your mental health.
So, The Focus spoke to a dating expert to learn about healthy ways to cope with rejections. James Preece is the UKs top celebrity dating coach and has authored several books on romantic relationships and online dating.
If you are on the receiving end of the rejection, here’s how to look at it.
- Don’t take it personally – a left swipe isn’t a reflection of your worth.
- Look at the lost opportunity as your ‘personal cupid’ – A healthy relationship takes time and effort from both parties to blossom and if youve been rejected, take it as a sign. ‘
- Flip the script – Each rejection brings you closer to that coveted yes and adds a dash of excitement to the dating journey, the expert says.
- Use it to make better choices – Last but not least, use each rejection as a springboard for self-reflection.
