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7 signs the guy you’re dating is playing mind games that you may not pick up on
Dating is a scary experience lest you end up with a player. It seems that mind games are more common than you would imagine and there are tell-tale signs of a man who has no intentions of committing to you.
Your attraction for emotionally unavailable men may stem from your own issues, but being the victim of mind games isn’t a deliberate choice a woman or a man in their right mind would make. A dating coach lists some obvious signs of a player you shouldn’t ignore.
1. He blows hot and cold
There are songs written about this behavior – a common trait of a man who is keeping you as an option. If you notice the person you’ve been dating for a few weeks or months seems interested in you one moment and suddenly disappears into thin air, take it as a major red flag alert. He knows blowing hot and cold will have you hooked emotionally, making it easier for him to play you.
2. He’s confused for a lot of reasons
It doesn’t matter why he’s confused; if he isn’t sure of you, move on to the next. Dating coach Bernardo Mendez says a man can be genuinely confused and doesn’t know what he’s looking for. Worse, he confused you for a “low-value woman” always available at his beck and call.
3. He’s ambiguous
He may show up in a way that implies he is looking for something meaningful, but wouldn’t spell it out. When it comes to having the real talk, his responses are more ambiguous than Christopher Nolan’s Inception.
Take this as a sign that he doesn’t have a clear intention with you or the relationship you hope to build with him and go after something that adds value to your life.
4. No plans for the future or poor planning
Players like to do things at their convenience. One – they don’t talk about a future with you. Two – their planning skills are extremely poor.
It’s either last minute or vague. They may say things like “soon”, “next month” or “in a while” without a proper timeline, to keep you hoping for more.
5. His words don’t match his actions
A man who talks the talk but doesn’t walk the walk has red flags written all over him. It doesn’t take more than a couple of dates to know if he intends to act on his words or says just the thing to keep you hooked on him. It could be something as small as planning a date you’ve always talked about or sticking to his promises. If the words and actions don’t add up, move on.
6. He doesn’t address his inconsistencies
He suddenly disappears for days on end; never answers your calls, but pretends like nothing’s wrong when he finally reaches you.
If a man cannot identify his inconsistencies and apologize for it, he’s not worth your time.
7. He does the bare minimum not to lose you
You may be a kind woman or someone who sees good in others. But that to a player, is the biggest advantage and he only does enough to keep you around.
Breadcrumbing is commonly used by players to retain the attention of the man/woman they want to keep in their life, without any intentions of serious commitments.
