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5 signs your engagement ring is actually just a ‘shut up ring’
Getting engaged to your partner is supposed to be one of the happiest moments of your life, but sadly it’s not like that for everyone.
While some propose out of true love, others get down on one knee with what’s known as a ‘shut up ring’ – and these are the signs.
What is a ‘shut up ring’?
A shut up ring is when someone proposes to shut the other person up, not because they are madly in love with them. It’s usually a man asking his girlfriend to marry him for any reason other than genuine, lifelong commitment.
Sometimes, it could be because she keeps on talking about getting engaged, so he does it to appease her. On other occasions, it could be a method of control as a man wants to marry his partner but doesn’t actually love her.
They could also be buying an engagement ring to give the appearance of moving forward when they aren’t actually ready to commit.�It’s never a serious expression of devotion and shows an�imbalance within the relationship.
5 ‘shut up ring’ signs
Blake Asaad, a jewellery expert who founded GOODSTONE, has shared five signs that your engagement ring is a shut up ring – not a sign that they really love you.
“Ive met hundreds of people buying rings for their partners, and sometimes their emotion when theyre buying says it all,” he said. “When someone is genuinely excited to be married, you can feel it as soon as they walk in. On the other hand, the vibe is often easy to spot if theyre buying a shut up ring.”
1. There was a big argument
If the proposal comes straight after a big argument, it could be a strategic move to lure you back in rather than a sign of genuine commitment. Engagements should always come from a place of love not used to resolve a conflict.
2. Avoiding deep conversations
When someone avoids deep conversations about the relationship and future but then proposes out of the blue, that’s a certain red flag. It’s a chance for them to postpone those important discussions even more, not a display of affection.
3. Lack of involvement
After getting engaged, it’s time to start planning the wedding, which should be an exciting time for both partners. However, if they aren’t interested in setting a date and have no enthusiam at all, they probably gave you a shut up ring.
4. External pressure
Sometimes, people propose because they feel like they have to, not because they want to. External factors like family pressure, religious expectations, or societal norms can push a partner to propose even if they arent ready.
5. Something feels off
Finally, you should always trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right about the proposal, it probably isn’t. True commitment should always be built on love and enthusiasm from both sides, not anxiety or uncertainty.
