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Dating expert reveals how people might lead you on and what to look out for
A well-known US dating expert has revealed the questions to ask yourself if you feel like your partner is leading you on.
Relationships are complicated, and sometimes, your view of a relationship is starkly different to the other persons. Theres a deep shame linked to it, as if youve chosen to be blind to the harsh reality. But if youre concerned about such situationships, Matthew Hussey has got you covered.�
His theory behind being led on
British dating expert and life coach Matthew Hussey is well-known in the US relationship space, having written for publications like GQ and Cosmopolitan. He even dated Camila Cabello for a time!
Taking to his popular Facebook account earlier this week, the handsome gent shared some keen insight into being led on.
Psychologist Kushneet Sachdev explained the theme as a situation when you are being given just enough attention or communication to keep your interest, but without any genuine commitment or intention to build a real relationship.
In his Facebook video, Matthew explained: Has someone taken you on a romantic trip, bought you a fancy gift or said something meaningful to you right before they ended the relationship? Or told you they didnt want a relationship at all? Why do people do this?
The truth is we dont know, and look, you cant spend all of your time second-guessing everything someone does, wondering, is it real? Is it not?
Luckily, there is something you can do and thats to identify whether the relationship is progressing in several dimensions, or only one.
He continued: Are they buying me lavish gifts and Im taking that to mean something, even though I get very little of their time or their energy? Are we continuing to do exciting things impulsively that feel great in the moment, but dont suggest that this person has me in mind for anything in the future?
Do they constantly say meaningful things but they are not backed up in a way that actually moves the relationship forward? Does it just sound like poetic language?
By asking yourself these questions, Matthew believes that people can better understand their relationship or lack thereof.
Fans share their thoughts
Some of Matthew’s followers took to the comments to share their own stories about being led on.
One person said: They do what it feels right at the moment.
Nothing’s wrong with go with the flow because some of the time that flow doesn’t repeat itself, someone else countered.
Sharing a personal anecdote, someone confessed: “I had this done to me right before Christmas. We exchanged presents and everything and all seemed fine and then 4 days after Christmas he ended it with me saying he decided he didnt want a relationship.”
