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Relationship coach warns you should stop telling your partner you love them Credits: Social Media
By Molly Young

Relationship coach warns you should stop telling your partner you love them

By Molly Young

‘I love you’ is a commonly used phrase that�expresses affection, fondness, and attachment�towards another person, but a relationship coach says you should stop telling your partner how you feel all the time.

It seems that the popular phrase can be used too frequently in the dating world, and couples should try swapping ‘I love you’ for other intimate words of affection. Another professional, a psychologist, even claims that men have ulterior motive when they say the three magic words.

Relationship coach says you should stop saying ‘I love you’

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A relationship coach named Jon Dillow revealed why you should stop telling your partner you love them: “If you frequently tell your partner, I love you, I want you to stop.”

Yes, you read that right, stop saying those three little words.

While affirming words of love to your partner is a good thing, saying the phrase ‘I love you’ all too often can take away from the real meaning of the affectionate terms, and it can start to become part of a comfortable routine and perhaps even meaningless.

Instead of I love you, dating expert Jon Dillow suggests trying out some other phrases, with examples listed below.

Try saying these words out loud, and you can probably feel just how much more meaningful the specific phrases are, as opposed to words that leave your lips all the time…

  • “I’m looking forward to seeing you.”
  • “I so enjoy doing life together.”
  • “I’m so thankful to have you as a partner, I hope you know that.”
  • “I probably won’t tell you this enough, but you really make my life better..”
  • “I’m so grateful to be with you.”
@what_healthy_couples_do

Here’s a few more examples of what you could say in place of “I love you.” 👉 You look gorgeous/handsome in that outfit. I’m looking forward to seeing you tonight (Flirtatious wink) 👉 When you say/do that it reminds me why I fell in love with you. 👉 I feel lucky to have you in my life. 👉 I believe in you. Now it’s your turn. Help us all out and put some of your ideas in the comments. What else could we say to our partners in place of a rote “I love you”? #healthyrelationships #marriageadvice #gottman #datingtips #relationshipcoach #couples #healthycouple #couplesgoals #marriage #relationships #relationshipadvice #relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshiptips #emotionalintelligence #growthmindset #relationship #change #breakup

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Alternative phrases to express love for your partner

Don’t get rid of the ILY altogether! The expert notes that the phrase ‘I love you’ is deep and meaningful, however, using it too much may mean that value begins to lack.

If your goal is to communicate your love and affection with your partner, being specific can be a more effective way to accomplish that goal.

For more examples of what you can say to your other half to express how you feel, try and make your words more personal.

Are you proud of something they have achieved today? Do you like anything specific about the way they look today? Are they rocking their outfit? Try complimenting these features to spice up the lovey-dovey phrases.

  • “You look gorgeous in that outfit.”
  • “I’m so proud to be in a relationship with you.”
  • “I’m looking forward to seeing you tonight.”
  • “When you say/do that it reminds me why I fell in love with you. “
  • “I feel lucky to have you in my life.”
  • “I believe in you.”

Jon Dillow is a relationship coach who has been working with couples for more than 20 years to help find solutions to fix relationship challenges.